Knowing whether a girl is playing hard-to-get or uninterested in you can be difficult to tell. It can get frustrating when you do all the work to win her over, but your efforts seem to be unproductive.
Girls are not as blunt as guys. They’re often subtle in passing their message which makes them look like puzzles to guys. Are you having a hard time figuring out if your crush is into you? Put an end to your confusion and know for sure whether she’s interested in you or not with these tips.
1. She repeatedly cancels dates
Canceling dates is not wrong. Sometimes, a lady has got do what she needs to do. Perhaps, she mistakenly made a double booking that makes it impossible to hang out or an emergency popped up which required her immediate attention. If it happens once or twice, you have no cause to fear about your relationship. But if it happens repeatedly, it just might be a dreaded sign that she’s not interested.
It could get even worse if she stands up to you continuously. She agreed to go out for a dinner date with you. You arrive at the restaurant all ready to have a pleasant evening, but she doesn’t show up. Not even a call or texts. She may apologize for it later, but it happens again and again. The handwriting on the wall is clear that she’s not into you.
2. Her replies are terse and blunt
Nothing communicates that a lady is not interested like receiving short responses to your messages. She leaves the responsibility of keeping the chat going entirely to you, and she’s not concerned that the conversation may die off. For example:
You: How was your day?
You: Tell me how you spent your day.
You: Can I call you later?
The above is a typical chat that describes how a girl that’s uninterested replies a guy. If you haven’t figured out what’s wrong with the conversation, you may have forgotten that women like to talk, especially to guys they’re into. If she isn’t replying your texts with complete sentences or she’s making you wait long to get replies, you just may not her prince charming.
3. It’s often a pity date or group date
When girls don’t like a guy who’s asking them out, they may go on a pity date with him. She knows you feel something strongly for her and decides to go out with you even though her emotional meter is reading zero. You can tell it’s a pity date if she looks bored or distracted throughout the date.
If pity dates are not her thing and she doesn’t want to turn down your request to hang out, she could bring another friend (or friends) along. What’s the plan? She wants to lighten the atmosphere as she may be uncomfortable with you. A group date robs you of the opportunity to have one-on-one time with her. If your date with her goes in any of these two directions, it’s a definite sign that she doesn’t feel anything for you.
4. She emphasizes that you’re a friend
Another subtle way a girl communicates that she’s not interested is by reinforcing that your relationship is strictly platonic. When you try to tell her the way you feel about her, she lets you know she appreciates you because you’ve been a reliable friend or something like that. You try to bring up the fact that you’re attracted to her, and she tells you she doesn’t want to ruin the remarkable friendship she has with you. You guessed right; it’s the familiar “friend zone.”
If you’re out in public with her and she introduces you as a friend, she’s merely reinforcing that she doesn’t see you as someone she can be intimate with. Introducing you as a friend isn’t always bad, but if she introduces you without a wink or giggles to her friends, that’s just enough signal to know she’s not into you.
5. She talks about her relationship with other guys
Forget trying to win your crush over when she starts talking about other guys. It’s a sign that can mean two things even though the end message is that she’s not interested in you. Talking about other guys could be her way of bringing your attention to the competition with the hope that you will back down. It could also mean she’s just telling you of other guys that catch her fancy which means you’re not her type.
Both methods may be cruel, but they are signals from her, so you don’t waste your time. Rather than see you as her man, she sees you as a friend with whom she can share her thoughts and ask for advice.
6. She doesn’t hold eye contact
Eye contact is essential in relationships as it indicates transparency and builds trust. When a girl is into you, you can see it in her eyes. It doesn’t mean she stares deep down into your soul, but you can see how her eyes twinkle while she smiles repeatedly. A girl who is shy may avoid eye contact frequently, but when she makes one, the glow in her eyes is hard to miss.
But if a girl is not interested in you, she won’t hold eye contact and it not because she’s blushing. Once her eyes meet yours, she may break the eye contact almost immediately by looking aside and staring at nothing. The message is crystal clear – not interested.
7. She won’t commit to future plans
All women don’t react to future plans the same way. For some, they’re happy to know you see a future with them; but for others, it can make them feel uneasy. There may be genuine reasons why a girl may feel uncomfortable about making plans with you. Asking the right question can help you know where the problem lies and how you can help.
However, when a girl is not interested in you, you can sense her reluctance to make long-term plans with you. Making plans is a sign of commitment. If your crush repeatedly shows an aversion to making plans, it’s a strong sign of disinterest.