Approaching the woman of your dreams can feel like walking through a minefield. You think she’s the one and want to do anything to have her by your side, but you’re not sure how to approach her. One wrong move and you would have thrown away the golden opportunity of making her like you.
Many guys would readily agree that approaching a woman they fancy is entirely different from meeting a woman for a casual date. The nervousness, the hesitation, the fear, the uncertainty – all of these are real. If you want to approach the woman of your dreams, here are some tips to help you win her heart.
1. Be yourself
Have you ever met people who suddenly acted or talked different because they noticedsomeone around them? Some people are lucky to pull this off while others end upembarrassing themselves. When it comes to approaching the woman of your dreams,it’s essential that you be yourself.
If you wanted a fling or a one night stand, it might make sense to pretend to be someone else. But when it’s someone you want a long-term relationship with, youcannot afford to make that mistake. Aside from the fact that she may sense yourpretense; you don’t want the pressure of trying to live up to that imageforever. Don’t try to impress her with your wealth or career success; just beyourself so she can appreciate and like the real version of you.
2. Be well groomed and well dressed
Your dressing makes a statement, so you want to make sure it makes a positive one. When a woman sees a man from a distance, she assesses him based on his appearance and quickly decides if she likes him or not. If you don’t want to flop, makesure you are well groomed and well dressed the way she likes it.
For instance, consider your haircut; is it styled to look good? Most women pay attention to the hair, moustache, and beard of men, so you want to make sure they’re tidy and well styled. Your style of clothing also matters as it reflects your personality. Whether you want to wear casual clothes or dress stylishly, make sure your clothes are neat and fitting. Don’t forget to wear perfume to smell nice. Even if you don’t have body odor, it increases your chance with her because women like men who smell nice.
3. Forget pick up lines
Pickup lines are often overused, and there’s a good chance the woman you fancy has heard them before. There’s nothing fantastic about being the second guy becauseit shows you’re just a copycat. If youwant to start your conversation on a high note, you may want to drop the pickuplines you have learned – except you created the pickup line yourself and it’ssuperb.
Rather than use pickup lines, here’s how to start interesting conversations. The rule of social relevance requires that you only begin a discussion that fits the social environment you meet someone. For instance, you may tell a girl she looks beautiful if you met at a social function but that would be an inappropriate compliment if you met her in a library. If you don’t want to sound boring, ask a question or make a statement that’s relevant to the place. In the library scenario, you can start by asking “you seem to be an avid reader, and that’s impressive. Could you recommend a book for me?”
4. Make a lasting first impression
If you are desperate to be likeable, she can quickly sense it. She can see the desperation in the terrible flow of conversation, your wrong use of body language, how hard you try not to be boring – in short, too many signs reflecting how confused and desperate you are. This paints the picture of a guy without confidence. You need to fix that.
If you want to be memorable, quit trying to play it safe her by agreeing to everything she says. If you’re going to make a lasting first impression, you may want to state your opinions firmly and clearly (even if it doesn’t agree with hers) without sounding insulting. Most men like to play it safe when discussing with women they fancy which quickly bore them. Having a different opinion can spark her interest in you and make her mentally mark your date as a memorable one.
5. Keep the conversation interesting
If you got her hooked by your confidence, dressing and the way you initiated the conversation but cannot keep the conversation moving, she may quickly get bored. And if she gets bored with the conversation, it’s only a matter of time before she feels uncomfortable around your company. You want to get it right from scratch to finish, and one way to do that is to keep the conversation interesting.
When it comes to women, the best subject of conversation is about them. Make your crush talk about herself and you would have succeeded in no small way in keeping the discussion interesting. Don’t interrogate her as though it’s a job interview; instead, ask her questions so she can share her views about trendy topics or even some memories. E.g., “What’s the most embarrassing experience you had of recent?” Then pick a line or word from her response to generate new conversation topics.
6. Make her friends your friends
After you have met her and had a great time with her, there’s still something you can do. It may be the last on the list, but it can be the determining factor on. Women are generally influenced by other women, and her friends wield a significant influence over her. No matter how nice she felt after meeting you, her friends may still ruin it all because their approval matters.
So you want to win her friends to your side and get them to like you. If you can be a friend to her friends, they can help speak well of you and reinforce that you’re a great guy she should be with. If her friends like you, she’s one step away from accepting you completely. So make it a noteworthy point to hang out and socialize with them.